Damned if you do, Doomed if you don’t! So, What is it Gonna be?

1F282C2A-B5E5-4E35-A48A-98EDE3EA6BACSo, I have decided to Coach and Train 100 women this year!
Besides the fact that today marks the start of International Coaching Week & I couldn’t think of anything I’ll love to do more, Here’s why…

Over last few years, on an average I have been getting 10-12 messages a month, from women I know and don’t, those who work in my company or at times, surprisingly in other organisations, many who are at cross roads, confused about how to juggle several jostling priorities, not knowing how to deal with ambiguity at work, build their presence & brand, wondering how to make ‘breakthroughs’ in their life, struggling to find a level playing field, struck by imposter syndrome, tottering at the tip of taking a big decision and not knowing who to talk to…Often, these messages have pulled at my heart strings.

Thats when it struck me that its not about how far I have come, its about how much of what I have experienced and learnt that I have shared, how many people have I supported who were not my family or team member, how many lives have I touched…till it got to be point that it was behovth on me to learn some new skills and hone some old ones to be able to make an impact at scale, take the state of affairs to a point where “no one has to write in to me” but where “I would be the one doing the heavy lifting, creating a safe space for them to talk while I freely share my life journey. Stories of times, when I made it & when I didn’t, took weeks & months to recover, at times years, of the trade-offs & compromises I made but grew significantly, sacrifices made but victories won, collateral damage suffered but took giant leaps forward…

While I have been tweeting & writing on many platforms for a while now, have decided to do 2 things:
1. Coach 100 women – create safe space for you to talk, introspect & reflect, strengthen your “being” & come up with your answers & decisions! In a group setting and over 1 on 1 calls. Ensure you always have a keen listening ear and a willing heart.
2. Train 100 women – its not always about emotions & feelings. Its mostly about skills & capabilities. Help you build them in a workshop setting the one’s that have worked for me! I am not the best but I am fierce and fearless, like Jessica Pearson says in Suits aired on Netflix 🙂

Our journey will start by you getting to deeply “Know Yourself”, then be able “Build Yourself” till you get to a point when you convincingly “Believe In Yourself”!

Watch this space for more…

 

 

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Mei akela hi chala tha, janibe manzil magar, Log aatay gaye, kaarvaa banta gaya…

Long Journey

Said one of the finest avant-garde Indian Urdu poet Majrooh Sultanpuri who comes to my mind as I write about the long road SHRM India has traveled. In English, I would quote Lao Tzu – “A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step”.

Couple of years ago, there were rumblings which were becoming a crescendo about invasion of technology, coming of mobile devices, age of digital natives & rise of robots, all of which were churning a mixed bag of emotions in the hearts and minds of Indian workforce.

HR was expected to know, HR was expected to show the path, HR was expected to lead! After all, Human is at the heart of technology, both the source & the recipient!

SHRM stepped in & stepped up! SHRM HR Technology Conference – India was born! Today it’s a force to reckon with & my sojourn with them began, as a delegate, speaker, blogger, twitter host, panel moderator, jury member & a friend of #SHRM.

Today this relationship has morphed into several threads of deep and meaningful partnership. Much of what I’ve learnt about contemporary and futurist HR has been at the SHRM conferences, many new ideas have struck me there watching and listening to hugely talented folks from around the world, several deep relationships with colleagues from industry seeded here, many win-win partnerships with vendors forged and social and networking skills honed!

Often, I hear people say and ask things like – “I am a lifelong learner”, “Platforms are going to revolutionize the way we work”, “I believe Microlearning is the way only way to go”, “AI will cause a turmoil, what is HR doing”, “Learning Agility is the key skill of the future”, “What is the dark & the bright side of technology”, “What does future of work look like?” and more…

Well then, if any of this is on your mind, tune into SHRM India HR Technology Conference 2018 #SHRMTech18 as we whip up a storm…of disruption & innovation, letting go & learning & draw out the blue print for HR digital organization of the future!

It is after all a melting pot of some of the finest minds in the country & beyond…Join Us!

Take the staircase coz there’s no elevator! Travails and Triumph of being a TEDx speaker

I just finished delivering my second TEDx talk last week. It was as frightening as it was exhilarating. Since then many of you have messaged with your wishes and many more reached out to ask what it takes to be a TEDx speaker. So I decided to write and share all that has worked for me so far.

It does not matter how many stages I’ve been up on or talk and sessions I’ve done so far, there is something different about TEDx. It’s an honour and an obligation to be on the stage and deliver a talk which is about “Ideas worth sharing”. Last time my talk was about my past which got me where I am and this time it’s about the future where I am going…

This is how it all begins…You must want to do a TEDx talk. You must be prepared to put in endless hours of work to share your idea for little or no glory in the traditional sense except deep satisfaction that you spread the idea you believed in, said the here forth unspoken with a unshakeable belief it will make a difference! In all cases the invite has to be a speaker come from TED/TEDx curator. It cannot be solicited! They pick the speaker based on passion, experience and conviction of the speaker on the subject. Things like age, experience, credentials do not matter…TED believes good ideas can come from anyone, anywhere in the world.

The process of selection is gruelling and there’s absolutely no short cut to it. Once you agree to do the TEDx talk, prepare to put yourself through a roller coaster ride which will be physically exhausting and emotionally draining. Commitment to it has to be absolute! Here’s what’s worked for me both times I did it.

  1. First of all, think of a theme and then a title for your talk. I wouldn’t dishonour the TEDx stage by doling out a talk or presentation I have done before or by not deeply thinking through what idea will inspire many…what idea do I have that is worth sharing!
  2. Once I have the theme and title for my talk, I set out to put myself in the shoes of those watching my talk. Do I need to show visuals so they connect with my idea, what anecdotes and stories can I tell so it resonates, do I pepper it with humour or drama. How do I capture the fancy of TEDsters! The 1st time I gave the talk I had 2 slides, this time I had 15 so really there’s no set format or formula to it. Go with what works for you…
  3. I woke up at crack of dawn many days to research my topic, read everything that has ever been written on it so I have complete mastery over the concept before I give it my perspective and point of view based on my experience and belief’s so as to make it an “idea worth spreading”.
  4. Then comes the difficult part as I write the script. Many speakers scoff at the idea of writing down and practising before they climb the stage to talk, many believe the words will just pour out of their mouths, many believe they can wing it…but that’s not me. I write it all down, highlight places where I will go slow, what I will emphasize where I will pitch my voice higher/lower and such. It’s always worked for me. I wrote 7 drafts before I was satisfied.
  5. When the concept, title, slides and script are all ready, it’s time to practice. I talk out aloud to my mirror, say it in empty office boardroom, tell it to my pet dog, get my friends to listen, say it out aloud while in a Uber cab…pretty much anywhere anyone will listen to it and tell me how it sounded and if they got the “Idea”. Another reason for this frantic practice is that the TEDx talk cannot go over 18minutes. My 1st talk I took 17 minutes and my second one I completed in 12 minutes. In fact, I am quite happy that I am now able to share the idea in 12 minutes. Brevity does seem to be my new hallmark
  6. It’s super critical for me to tell you that I have a formidable support team pretty much for every step. It doesn’t work any other way for me. Friends who help brainstorm the idea, ones who gave me overall design inputs, those who help put my slides and script together and other who heard me as I practiced. Its as taxing for them as its for me but then that’s what friends are for : -)
  7. And then there are many who called and messaged trying to calm my nervousness saying “They believed in me”…”How can I not”. The words which echoed in my mind on the morning of my talk are these two, first one came to me on twitter and read “ Carpe Diem, Its Fait Accompli” and the other text via Whatsapp which said “telling you to do well is akin to wishing Sachin Tendulkar good luck as he goes in to bat”! Now that’s the kind of team you need!

On the morning of the talk, my stomach did rumble and legs did tremble but then this is the moment when all the experience, practice and self-belief kicks in…and rest is the tale to tell!

Many also ask me why I do this? Is it worth all this extra hours of work? This is what I have to say to that: Nothing absolutely nothing compares to the heady rush of adrenaline as you walk off the stage after the talk, I know of no other way to build a deeper knowledge on a subject of future, delivering the talk reinforces my belief in self, helps set the bar higher for myself and puts me in a position to share and spread what I know! And that alone is worth it!

From TEDx to TED talk is a long journey I still have to take…But what I also know is that there is no elevator to it, I’m taking the stairs!