My Travails & Travels…from Valley to the Peak!

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It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves! said Sir Edmund Hillary, man who scaled Mount Everest. 

I spent most of my childhood and adolescence watching the Himalayas from afar, always in awe and with longing. Such was their mystic pull that finally, after what felt like a lifetime, I spent a week in a camp in the Himalayas experiencing and practising the art of strengthening self….my “inner being”. Conquering the external world does seems easy, when one has mastered oneself. 

These few days in the midst of mighty Himalayas was a journey of a lifetime. It helped me fall deeper and climb higher! I fell and bowed in gratitude (much of what I have today is were some of my wildest dreams long time ago), I fell from my lofty pedestal of worldly title and rank, I fell deep and hard and I didn’t feel a thing! At the same time, I rose higher and unshackled myself of my fears: of failure, of rejection, of starting over…I truly transcended! Nature healed the soul, Ayurveda worked to integrate my body, mind and spirit and Meditation helped me fathom meaning and purpose of life.

At a metaphorical level, What I experienced was that:

  1. Every once in a while, we must allow ourselves to “feel the silence”, hear its deafening roar before we calm the tempest.
  2. Let our souls strengthen, which happens when we let our cup to run over…cup of fear, anxiety, rejection, failure. Empty it out
  3. Lift our foot off the firm ground and take a huge leap of faith. Wings will grown as we soar down.
  4. Its ok to fall and meander like the river, Slope and then rise like a valley, Stand tall and then soar like the Everest!. 

In our corporate parlance, what I would urge us all to do is

  1. Learn to prioritise self. Set aside “me time”. Reach out to learn from those who do it better…
  2. Stop procrastinating. Don’t sit on the fence forever. Act. Seek out those who’ve been there, done that…They know what to do
  3. Invest in yourself. Start by introspecting, then reflect and then swiftly back it up by assertive action. If you don’t, who will?
  4. Give it all that you’ve got. Be “all in”. Stop hedging. Maybe burn few bridge so there Is no looking behind, no going back!

In the beginning we journey to lose ourselves. Often, thereafter we journey to find ourselves! 

What is it going to be for you?

 

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Damned if you do, Doomed if you don’t! So, What is it Gonna be?

1F282C2A-B5E5-4E35-A48A-98EDE3EA6BACSo, I have decided to Coach and Train 100 women this year!
Besides the fact that today marks the start of International Coaching Week & I couldn’t think of anything I’ll love to do more, Here’s why…

Over last few years, on an average I have been getting 10-12 messages a month, from women I know and don’t, those who work in my company or at times, surprisingly in other organisations, many who are at cross roads, confused about how to juggle several jostling priorities, not knowing how to deal with ambiguity at work, build their presence & brand, wondering how to make ‘breakthroughs’ in their life, struggling to find a level playing field, struck by imposter syndrome, tottering at the tip of taking a big decision and not knowing who to talk to…Often, these messages have pulled at my heart strings.

Thats when it struck me that its not about how far I have come, its about how much of what I have experienced and learnt that I have shared, how many people have I supported who were not my family or team member, how many lives have I touched…till it got to be point that it was behovth on me to learn some new skills and hone some old ones to be able to make an impact at scale, take the state of affairs to a point where “no one has to write in to me” but where “I would be the one doing the heavy lifting, creating a safe space for them to talk while I freely share my life journey. Stories of times, when I made it & when I didn’t, took weeks & months to recover, at times years, of the trade-offs & compromises I made but grew significantly, sacrifices made but victories won, collateral damage suffered but took giant leaps forward…

While I have been tweeting & writing on many platforms for a while now, have decided to do 2 things:
1. Coach 100 women – create safe space for you to talk, introspect & reflect, strengthen your “being” & come up with your answers & decisions! In a group setting and over 1 on 1 calls. Ensure you always have a keen listening ear and a willing heart.
2. Train 100 women – its not always about emotions & feelings. Its mostly about skills & capabilities. Help you build them in a workshop setting the one’s that have worked for me! I am not the best but I am fierce and fearless, like Jessica Pearson says in Suits aired on Netflix 🙂

Our journey will start by you getting to deeply “Know Yourself”, then be able “Build Yourself” till you get to a point when you convincingly “Believe In Yourself”!

Watch this space for more…

 

 

Mei akela hi chala tha, janibe manzil magar, Log aatay gaye, kaarvaa banta gaya…

Long Journey

Said one of the finest avant-garde Indian Urdu poet Majrooh Sultanpuri who comes to my mind as I write about the long road SHRM India has traveled. In English, I would quote Lao Tzu – “A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step”.

Couple of years ago, there were rumblings which were becoming a crescendo about invasion of technology, coming of mobile devices, age of digital natives & rise of robots, all of which were churning a mixed bag of emotions in the hearts and minds of Indian workforce.

HR was expected to know, HR was expected to show the path, HR was expected to lead! After all, Human is at the heart of technology, both the source & the recipient!

SHRM stepped in & stepped up! SHRM HR Technology Conference – India was born! Today it’s a force to reckon with & my sojourn with them began, as a delegate, speaker, blogger, twitter host, panel moderator, jury member & a friend of #SHRM.

Today this relationship has morphed into several threads of deep and meaningful partnership. Much of what I’ve learnt about contemporary and futurist HR has been at the SHRM conferences, many new ideas have struck me there watching and listening to hugely talented folks from around the world, several deep relationships with colleagues from industry seeded here, many win-win partnerships with vendors forged and social and networking skills honed!

Often, I hear people say and ask things like – “I am a lifelong learner”, “Platforms are going to revolutionize the way we work”, “I believe Microlearning is the way only way to go”, “AI will cause a turmoil, what is HR doing”, “Learning Agility is the key skill of the future”, “What is the dark & the bright side of technology”, “What does future of work look like?” and more…

Well then, if any of this is on your mind, tune into SHRM India HR Technology Conference 2018 #SHRMTech18 as we whip up a storm…of disruption & innovation, letting go & learning & draw out the blue print for HR digital organization of the future!

It is after all a melting pot of some of the finest minds in the country & beyond…Join Us!

As Within, So Without. As Above, So Below!

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Said, Hermes Trismegistus of the Reformation and Renaissance era who’s often called divine source of wisdom, master of world of alchemy, astrology and theurgy. This quote is believed to have demystified one of the biggest secrets of life

In the modern world – “As Within” presumes – what do we think deep within ourselves, how well we know ourselves. “So Without” supposes – that it will get expressed in the life we lead.

“As above” represents what’s on our minds (Heaven). “So below” epitomizes that it will be seen in and around our body and environment (Earth).

The concept is that of interconnectedness. With this heightened knowledge of Trismegistus supposition, I want to share two things that I did:

Over the last few years, started to slowly and many a times painfully to learn the nuances of human mind starting with my own. I took many a different road to go deeper into the working of human mind, thoroughly understand the first principles and its manifestation is that I am now a certified ICF coach and an EQ 20.0 practitioner. In corporate parlance we could perhaps equate it to the grasp of human potential and understanding the journey of culture, human emotions & intelligence from IQ to EQ to SQ.

As Within, So Without. As Above, So Below!

The other thing, I am often asked is – What should we do?

  • Keep our heads down and intently focus on our goals and deliverables OR stay aligned with the larger fraternity to share and learn?
  • Deliver on our own tasks and those of our team, boss and company OR go over and above and across to create and deliver value to larger community?

To my mind it’s was never a choice between This OR That but always about This AND That! Strike the right balance. Do the right thing! When you:

  • Think you’ve mastered the concept – Get credentialed, Share freely
  • Feel you’ve delivered supreme value – Win an award that truly matters, Add value
  • Believe you’ve gained rich experiences – Become a storyteller, Change lives

I have learnt to be true to myself, let my authentic self reign supreme, allowed my purpose to be my beacon. After all, choices I make in my inner world will play out in my real world.

As Within, So Without. As above, So Below!