Damned if you do, Doomed if you don’t! So, What is it Gonna be?

1F282C2A-B5E5-4E35-A48A-98EDE3EA6BACSo, I have decided to Coach and Train 100 women this year!
Besides the fact that today marks the start of International Coaching Week & I couldn’t think of anything I’ll love to do more, Here’s why…

Over last few years, on an average I have been getting 10-12 messages a month, from women I know and don’t, those who work in my company or at times, surprisingly in other organisations, many who are at cross roads, confused about how to juggle several jostling priorities, not knowing how to deal with ambiguity at work, build their presence & brand, wondering how to make ‘breakthroughs’ in their life, struggling to find a level playing field, struck by imposter syndrome, tottering at the tip of taking a big decision and not knowing who to talk to…Often, these messages have pulled at my heart strings.

Thats when it struck me that its not about how far I have come, its about how much of what I have experienced and learnt that I have shared, how many people have I supported who were not my family or team member, how many lives have I touched…till it got to be point that it was behovth on me to learn some new skills and hone some old ones to be able to make an impact at scale, take the state of affairs to a point where “no one has to write in to me” but where “I would be the one doing the heavy lifting, creating a safe space for them to talk while I freely share my life journey. Stories of times, when I made it & when I didn’t, took weeks & months to recover, at times years, of the trade-offs & compromises I made but grew significantly, sacrifices made but victories won, collateral damage suffered but took giant leaps forward…

While I have been tweeting & writing on many platforms for a while now, have decided to do 2 things:
1. Coach 100 women – create safe space for you to talk, introspect & reflect, strengthen your “being” & come up with your answers & decisions! In a group setting and over 1 on 1 calls. Ensure you always have a keen listening ear and a willing heart.
2. Train 100 women – its not always about emotions & feelings. Its mostly about skills & capabilities. Help you build them in a workshop setting the one’s that have worked for me! I am not the best but I am fierce and fearless, like Jessica Pearson says in Suits aired on Netflix 🙂

Our journey will start by you getting to deeply “Know Yourself”, then be able “Build Yourself” till you get to a point when you convincingly “Believe In Yourself”!

Watch this space for more…

 

 

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Mei akela hi chala tha, janibe manzil magar, Log aatay gaye, kaarvaa banta gaya…

Long Journey

Said one of the finest avant-garde Indian Urdu poet Majrooh Sultanpuri who comes to my mind as I write about the long road SHRM India has traveled. In English, I would quote Lao Tzu – “A journey of thousand miles begins with a single step”.

Couple of years ago, there were rumblings which were becoming a crescendo about invasion of technology, coming of mobile devices, age of digital natives & rise of robots, all of which were churning a mixed bag of emotions in the hearts and minds of Indian workforce.

HR was expected to know, HR was expected to show the path, HR was expected to lead! After all, Human is at the heart of technology, both the source & the recipient!

SHRM stepped in & stepped up! SHRM HR Technology Conference – India was born! Today it’s a force to reckon with & my sojourn with them began, as a delegate, speaker, blogger, twitter host, panel moderator, jury member & a friend of #SHRM.

Today this relationship has morphed into several threads of deep and meaningful partnership. Much of what I’ve learnt about contemporary and futurist HR has been at the SHRM conferences, many new ideas have struck me there watching and listening to hugely talented folks from around the world, several deep relationships with colleagues from industry seeded here, many win-win partnerships with vendors forged and social and networking skills honed!

Often, I hear people say and ask things like – “I am a lifelong learner”, “Platforms are going to revolutionize the way we work”, “I believe Microlearning is the way only way to go”, “AI will cause a turmoil, what is HR doing”, “Learning Agility is the key skill of the future”, “What is the dark & the bright side of technology”, “What does future of work look like?” and more…

Well then, if any of this is on your mind, tune into SHRM India HR Technology Conference 2018 #SHRMTech18 as we whip up a storm…of disruption & innovation, letting go & learning & draw out the blue print for HR digital organization of the future!

It is after all a melting pot of some of the finest minds in the country & beyond…Join Us!

As Within, So Without. As Above, So Below!

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Said, Hermes Trismegistus of the Reformation and Renaissance era who’s often called divine source of wisdom, master of world of alchemy, astrology and theurgy. This quote is believed to have demystified one of the biggest secrets of life

In the modern world – “As Within” presumes – what do we think deep within ourselves, how well we know ourselves. “So Without” supposes – that it will get expressed in the life we lead.

“As above” represents what’s on our minds (Heaven). “So below” epitomizes that it will be seen in and around our body and environment (Earth).

The concept is that of interconnectedness. With this heightened knowledge of Trismegistus supposition, I want to share two things that I did:

Over the last few years, started to slowly and many a times painfully to learn the nuances of human mind starting with my own. I took many a different road to go deeper into the working of human mind, thoroughly understand the first principles and its manifestation is that I am now a certified ICF coach and an EQ 20.0 practitioner. In corporate parlance we could perhaps equate it to the grasp of human potential and understanding the journey of culture, human emotions & intelligence from IQ to EQ to SQ.

As Within, So Without. As Above, So Below!

The other thing, I am often asked is – What should we do?

  • Keep our heads down and intently focus on our goals and deliverables OR stay aligned with the larger fraternity to share and learn?
  • Deliver on our own tasks and those of our team, boss and company OR go over and above and across to create and deliver value to larger community?

To my mind it’s was never a choice between This OR That but always about This AND That! Strike the right balance. Do the right thing! When you:

  • Think you’ve mastered the concept – Get credentialed, Share freely
  • Feel you’ve delivered supreme value – Win an award that truly matters, Add value
  • Believe you’ve gained rich experiences – Become a storyteller, Change lives

I have learnt to be true to myself, let my authentic self reign supreme, allowed my purpose to be my beacon. After all, choices I make in my inner world will play out in my real world.

As Within, So Without. As above, So Below!

 

 

Incremental steps or Quantum leaps. Now or Never…You pick!

Leap of Faith

World today is noisy! There is cacophony of sounds, images, moments and actions so much so that it’s difficult to calm the mind and focus on the thought, let alone be able to say it our aloud or share with others….Mindshare is tough to get, attention spans are only microseconds long, everyone is swimming vigorously with the current to either surge forward or valiantly swimming against it to stay afloat.

How you are then to be heard and seen and noticed? Women more often than not have a lifelong struggle with it: More than anything else it’s a social blemish and a moral dilemma of “To do or Not to do” Talk about their achievements, aspirations, ambitions and such…After all years of conditioning has taught us that it’s wrong to think about ourselves first, wrong to be vulnerable publicly, inappropriate to talk about our hopes and desires, our dreams and aspirations and share our fears and anxieties especially at workplace. As for networking, lest said the better…

Let’s take the bull by the horns. Its time! My take on building and leveraging networks is – Do what you have to do! If you have something earth shattering to say, obviously say it and if you think what you know isn’t good enough for you to share, say it anyway. Let the world be the judge. Half of lives successes go to the one who speaks up, shows up! If only those who spoke were the ones who had unearthed some world’s mysteries and solved some world’s problems all would be walking around with a Noble prize or an Oscar nomination or a National award…But I don’t see too many of them around! Do you? So don’t let the fear of “I don’t know what to say, I have nothing to share…” ever stop you.

So just go for it. Build a personal brand for yourself, if others can’t do or won’t do it! Better to be known for something however small it may be, than to pass away in insignificance. Remember few things as you embark upon any such journey. Above all, understand and intently focus on “Your being” and “Your doing”. Do not sacrifice “Being” at the altar of “Doing”.

It’s always wise to know what path to take as you move ahead. Be absolutely clear about and have razor sharp focus on:

  1. Why do you want to say whatever you’re going to say?
  2. How will you do it, how often, to whom?
  3. Why will others want to know?
  4. Is it worth the effort?

As for the Why which is your “Being” part, this is what I believe. If you care about something, you have to stand up and say it!  If Deepika Padukone a Bollywood actress starts to be seen on billboards, appears on the “Coffee with Karan Johar” show, go to shopping malls to meet her fans, start going to “happening” events and parties shortly before her movie gets released, why not you? Even celebrities like her need to be seen and heard, repeatedly and on multiple platforms and media for us to sit up and take notice and eventually show up in theatres to see the newly released movie! Sheryl Sandberg needed to go on tour to promote her book, do FB chats and be on a TED stage taking about it before the world knew of her, her ideas and her book “Lean In”. That’s when she is the COO of world’s largest social media company,  Facebook.  If there is a voice within you that’s raging, get it out! If they do, why not you?

How you do it is the “Doing” part. Talk about what you stand for, your cause, things that matter to you, every way you possibly can. Look for opportunities at work to talk to talk to small groups, make those coffee chats and water cooler conversations count, volunteer to do training sessions, write a post and put it blogs on company site, step up to mentor few people, look for affinity groups to socialize. That’s internal: within your company. To reach the external world, leverage the awesome power of social media, use LinkedIn, Twitter, WordPress to freely express, set up and attend MeetUp groups, when on a holiday take out few hours to address neighbourhood community, take a masterclass at academic institutes, look for local events taking place and volunteer to share what you know best, stretch to take out few minutes daily and few hours over the weekends to build consistency and momentum to. It all adds up. In the beginning, expect nothing. Learn to pay forward!

Why will anyone else care? Now that’s a fair thing to ask ourselves. Just coz it’s what you want to say and do, certainly doesn’t mean those around you will have to jump up to listen! The answer is “blowin’ in the wind” sang Bob Dylan 1) Find an affinity group similar to your life goals, they will want to hear 2) Find other on same path as your lives joys and passion, they will pull you into the circuit 3) Get yourself on a stage that matters, around your areas of expertise, get written about in a publication which is widely read…then folks will sit up and notice! 4) Align yourself with a bigger cause than you that will rally others to join your journey. Say and share often and freely, push the needle on the subject, be a thought leader, torchbearer. Stand up for something, be known for it…And I’ve noticed that if one musters courage and stands up to talk, people gather to listen…and that’s how a “Kafila” grows!

What it will do for you is create a newer world! Get you connected to not just thousands but millions of people who are on same path as you! Help you further your purpose, fuel your passion and give you abundant physical and mental energy to move further, put a smile on your face and spring in your step. After all, when all is done and dusted, that’s what will really matters! These are the material gains, everything else is incidental!

Often when I hear is “there is no time”, “I am swamped with so much already”. “I don’t know how to use social platforms” and such. My reply always is – If that’s how you feel, you don’t want it badly enough…let it be. Until then, standby to watch others struggle to rise/fall/rise again on worlds stage, stand aside for those who walk the extra mile whiz past you at work, burrow your head into your pillow to get little more sleep as others wake up to go run and discover new places!

The day something/anything becomes your purpose and passion you will seek to learn, engage and share it relentlessly, pursue it endlessly.

And sometimes in life when the music dims, the stage is dark and the curtains are drawn and down, people’s whose lives you touched will magically appear to stand beside you & applaud.

1st published in “Times of Pamac” – Volume 8, December 2017

Take the staircase coz there’s no elevator! Travails and Triumph of being a TEDx speaker

I just finished delivering my second TEDx talk last week. It was as frightening as it was exhilarating. Since then many of you have messaged with your wishes and many more reached out to ask what it takes to be a TEDx speaker. So I decided to write and share all that has worked for me so far.

It does not matter how many stages I’ve been up on or talk and sessions I’ve done so far, there is something different about TEDx. It’s an honour and an obligation to be on the stage and deliver a talk which is about “Ideas worth sharing”. Last time my talk was about my past which got me where I am and this time it’s about the future where I am going…

This is how it all begins…You must want to do a TEDx talk. You must be prepared to put in endless hours of work to share your idea for little or no glory in the traditional sense except deep satisfaction that you spread the idea you believed in, said the here forth unspoken with a unshakeable belief it will make a difference! In all cases the invite has to be a speaker come from TED/TEDx curator. It cannot be solicited! They pick the speaker based on passion, experience and conviction of the speaker on the subject. Things like age, experience, credentials do not matter…TED believes good ideas can come from anyone, anywhere in the world.

The process of selection is gruelling and there’s absolutely no short cut to it. Once you agree to do the TEDx talk, prepare to put yourself through a roller coaster ride which will be physically exhausting and emotionally draining. Commitment to it has to be absolute! Here’s what’s worked for me both times I did it.

  1. First of all, think of a theme and then a title for your talk. I wouldn’t dishonour the TEDx stage by doling out a talk or presentation I have done before or by not deeply thinking through what idea will inspire many…what idea do I have that is worth sharing!
  2. Once I have the theme and title for my talk, I set out to put myself in the shoes of those watching my talk. Do I need to show visuals so they connect with my idea, what anecdotes and stories can I tell so it resonates, do I pepper it with humour or drama. How do I capture the fancy of TEDsters! The 1st time I gave the talk I had 2 slides, this time I had 15 so really there’s no set format or formula to it. Go with what works for you…
  3. I woke up at crack of dawn many days to research my topic, read everything that has ever been written on it so I have complete mastery over the concept before I give it my perspective and point of view based on my experience and belief’s so as to make it an “idea worth spreading”.
  4. Then comes the difficult part as I write the script. Many speakers scoff at the idea of writing down and practising before they climb the stage to talk, many believe the words will just pour out of their mouths, many believe they can wing it…but that’s not me. I write it all down, highlight places where I will go slow, what I will emphasize where I will pitch my voice higher/lower and such. It’s always worked for me. I wrote 7 drafts before I was satisfied.
  5. When the concept, title, slides and script are all ready, it’s time to practice. I talk out aloud to my mirror, say it in empty office boardroom, tell it to my pet dog, get my friends to listen, say it out aloud while in a Uber cab…pretty much anywhere anyone will listen to it and tell me how it sounded and if they got the “Idea”. Another reason for this frantic practice is that the TEDx talk cannot go over 18minutes. My 1st talk I took 17 minutes and my second one I completed in 12 minutes. In fact, I am quite happy that I am now able to share the idea in 12 minutes. Brevity does seem to be my new hallmark
  6. It’s super critical for me to tell you that I have a formidable support team pretty much for every step. It doesn’t work any other way for me. Friends who help brainstorm the idea, ones who gave me overall design inputs, those who help put my slides and script together and other who heard me as I practiced. Its as taxing for them as its for me but then that’s what friends are for : -)
  7. And then there are many who called and messaged trying to calm my nervousness saying “They believed in me”…”How can I not”. The words which echoed in my mind on the morning of my talk are these two, first one came to me on twitter and read “ Carpe Diem, Its Fait Accompli” and the other text via Whatsapp which said “telling you to do well is akin to wishing Sachin Tendulkar good luck as he goes in to bat”! Now that’s the kind of team you need!

On the morning of the talk, my stomach did rumble and legs did tremble but then this is the moment when all the experience, practice and self-belief kicks in…and rest is the tale to tell!

Many also ask me why I do this? Is it worth all this extra hours of work? This is what I have to say to that: Nothing absolutely nothing compares to the heady rush of adrenaline as you walk off the stage after the talk, I know of no other way to build a deeper knowledge on a subject of future, delivering the talk reinforces my belief in self, helps set the bar higher for myself and puts me in a position to share and spread what I know! And that alone is worth it!

From TEDx to TED talk is a long journey I still have to take…But what I also know is that there is no elevator to it, I’m taking the stairs!

 

Want To Build A Brand & Race Ahead… Use Culture As Your Ignition!

Ignition

The word “startup” carries a whole ocean of meaning within itself. Start what? A business obviously! The definition of business imprinted on our minds comes from many management gurus who have said,  “The goal of a business is to make profit”.

Perhaps it used to be. However, its been fully challenged now. The goal of a business is to make profit led by its larger “purpose” and societal responsibilities.  So really it’s about the fact that – Belief’s lead to Behaviors, which leads to Business. Belief is the bedrock of Culture. Culture is propelled by the purpose of the company and fueled by the passion of its people!

In the early days of getting a startup off the ground, it’s easy to sink deep into transactions that are ferocious in intensity and suck both the time and energy of the founders. During this period, founders become bodily and emotionally exhausted, thus not being able to spend time on building deep roots of culture in their organization. This very often is the death knell of most organizations.

This is where HR needs to step in and step up – continuously talk about building a strong and powerful culture of the company, get the buy-in of the board and other senior leaders, socialize with the workforce. In fact get the CEO/Founder to “be” and “become” the Chief Culture Officer. If HR is to be seen as strategic they have to get the architecture and blueprint of the organization right, which goes far beyond the mere reporting lines on paper and policies. Culture has to be the “Cornerstone”!

What I mean by Culture at a workplace is what we call “User Experience” these days. Many would claim in fact argue that the “experience” whether its customer or employee today is the ONLY differentiator. It’s what will make or mar the progress of the company as this evokes a strong emotional reaction, builds loyalty and advocacy amongst all stakeholders. If HR today is getting to sit on the boardroom table, it’s because of the power of the impact they are able to make to the business by building the strong foundation of right values and behaviors, which lead to superlative experiences in the marketplace. And to my mind, it’s not about what authority HR is “allowed” but more about what do they think they cannot “do”. HR does not need to be granted authority – they need to feel empowered to put the right culture building blocks in place.

Wikipedia defines Culture as a medley of Values, Visions, Norms, Working language, Systems, Symbols, Habits, Rituals, and Beliefs that contribute to the unique social and psychological environment of an organization. The way it plays out in the corporate world is seen how committed the company is towards building a strong culture of learning, of conversations, of employee wellbeing, of strong values and behaviors and most of all – does it get waylaid on the roadside during times of crisis or does leadership lean to it in times of crucial decision making.

In essence, culture stems from the experiences an employee goes through in an organization and can become a strategic enabler acting as a beacon in tough times. Today, HR is in a strong position to lead the torch on a strategic standpoint and it is purely the responsibility of startup founders to enable, empower and energize the HR function in their startup’s to create positive and lasting employee experiences.

1st published by Business World – http://bit.ly/2yDP7KZ

It’s Time to “Catch” our People

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In today’s times, compliance and control reign supreme. That’s no surprise given the volatility and paranoia in the corporate world due to economic macro environment, threats from technology, government regulations, unions and such…While organizations grapple with all this and more, its behoveth on us not to forget who’s at the front and centre of our business!

  1. Who creates value for your client & the firm? Is it your product & service or your people?
  2. Who is the advocate of your organization’s brand? Is it marketing or your employee?
  3. Who is the custodian of your company’s culture? HR or the employee!
  4. Who do your prospective customers & employees believe more? Information on your company website or social media posts of your employees?

Who then has really won the war for Talent?

The answer is “blowin in the wind” and has been for quite a while now! The proverbial employee of course! Now’s is the time for us to applaud them in letter and spirit.

Dale Carnegie said – People work for money but will go the extra mile for recognition, praise and appreciation. Many organizations do a stellar work around appreciating their employees. The names they have given to their recognition program (some that I know of are Cheers, Samaan, ICON, Stars) acknowledge the fact that they know that their employee is “The champion”. If that be the case, lets broaden the definition, reach and scope of our recognition programs.

Lots of research and data tells us that many companies value longevity; the tenure of the employee above all, which is great as loyal employee in today’s VUCA times is of great asset. After all they are one’s who have deep contextual knowledge and know just when and how to adjust the sail of their company’s boat when its stormy and windy weather. Experience often trump’s enthusiasm!

Besides loyalty, I want to make a strong case here for recognizing employee for other things as:

  1. Failing fast and learning early with no fear of retribution
  2. Disrupting hence innovating fuelled by organizational resources
  3. Making sacrifices as they steadfastly uphold values
  4. Imploding rather than exploding hence releasing incredible energy
  5. Doing the right thing…for the customer & colleagues when in conflict

When it’s about saying “Well done” & “Thank you”, bust all hierarchy. Let recognition come not just from the top but from all and from all far flung corners of the organization. Build such a strong culture of recognition that it sweeps across the organization like a tsunami.

Let us “catch” our people doing right and watch the magic begin! It’s time to WIN together!

1st published for SHRM Annual Conference – 2017 #SHRMiAC17